Just like blogging, creating a blog is easy but continuously updating it is not easy at all... I suddenly felt the urge of writting something after abandoning this blog for so long.. My cousin just got married today. I really hope he'll have a happy marriage and he and his wife's love for each other will be everlasting!
I guess it is no way near easy to stay in love just like it is not easy to constantly update a blog. It takes effort, time etc. But I do think all these are related to one's interest and priority. When there is a will, there is a way. Falling in love is actually not really a task at all, it just come so naturally for most people. This is exactly the opposite of staying in love. It definitely takes effort and willingness, I mean A LOT OF effort and will to do so.
In my opinion, the result of marriage (whether it will last happily or not) depends on how well one can tolerate and compromise with his/her spouse and vice versa. And what is one of the main factors that can drive one to do so??? BINGO! It's again, whether you can stay in love with him/her after knowing his/her ugly side and going thru the challenges in life...
I guess, being at the top in the priority list of their husbands is one of the most wanted status for women. Unfortunately, it seems that not many women could attain this status... (This is quite a bias statement I guess, since the author is a woman herself). Well, it does make me feel selfish to say that as it seems like I'm expecting something back out of the love I'd give to a man. Wasn't "loving others without expecting anything in return" one of the charecteristics of the greatest love? It feels like it's harder to unconditionally love someone you really love. What a paradox. Somehow, if someone is really special to you, you hope he would appreciate you more...
Talking about appreciation, perhaps men and women have very different perceptions and ideas on how to appreciate someone... For men, it could be that providing for that someone is the best way of appreciating her... Other things are not necessary. For women, small things like a thank you note thru a card or sms, a compliment on something about her from her spouse.. mean quite a lot! Tho it may not seem sensible as one can't survive with thank you notes but oddly that's just how some women can feel appreciated.
A man may started out working hard to provide for his family because of his love for the family.. However, if he does not make this a clear reason for working hard, he may end up sacrificing his family for the sake of working and at the same time lossing his love for his wife.. what a depressing ending..
So for husbands out there, if you've impressed your wives long ago with diamond rings and bangalows, you may continue striving hard at work as a way of staying in love with your wives... However, if you used to impress your wife with little sweet things you did when you were wooing her, perhaps it's probably quite necessary to do that at least once in a while to keep her feeling loved...
For guys who are still not attached and intend to get attached, maybe you should consider how to woo a girl according to the kind of maintenance that you think you can cope with for long term. An analog to make things simpler for guys: For a long-term pleasant driving experience, buy a car which has an affordable cost of maintenance.
I would like to end today's entry by wishing my cousin, Keng Chung. Congratulations! May you have a pleasant driving experience =p
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