Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Something new about life...

It has been more than 4 months since a relationship had ended... Before that, I though ending a relationship that had been suffocating will bring immediate relief... But I realised something else... Instead, ending a relationship might be just mending another relationship...

It is really funny how expectations can bring so many negative effects to a relationship. When you're in a BGR, you would probably have expectations towards the other person... and if they're not met, anger, disappointment and all come along and chock the relationship...

Interestingly, when you've decided to give up on that relationship and to not have anymore expectations towards that person... you'd find that all those anger, disappointment and other feelings that have been chocking the relationship would just disappear... and you could only remember all the nice things that the other party had done and how much he/she had struggled along that journey... then you wished you could have endured longer, could have been more understanding...

Sadly, it really seemed that there was no way to get rid of those negative effects of expectations unless you don expect and in order to not expect, you just have to decide to end the relationship. I remember someone said, "it is better to be single and hope that you were attached than to be attached and hope that you were not." Maybe it wasn't a wrong decision after all....

It is better to feel that he actually cared when we're apart than to feel that he doesn't care at all when we're together...

Feel like saying... I wish everything goes well for you... Hope you'll walk in His way and trust Him with all you have. Hope to see you successful one day...

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